I believe you. Perhaps the most powerful words for a victim of any kind to hear. My experience of reporting the truth about sexual harassment and power abuse by Bill Hybels as well as the systemic power abuse of the organization trying to cover it up was met with unbelief, blaming, shaming, and more deceptive cover-up. I’m still processing my own trauma and grief of the last nine months, and hope that writing about what I have learned can help others as they navigate their own deconstruction. I know for sure God’s word invites us to bind up the brokenhearted, defend the oppressed, advocate for the marginalized against the powerful and to partner with Jesus in healing their wounds. I long hoped this would be the church’s response. As Christ’s followers we are called to partner with God in the redemption and restoration of all things, including the hearts of the perpetrators- inviting them into truth and light and freedom as well.
Our churches should reflect Jesus’ call to be a refuge, not an impenetrable empire. I’d propose as Christ’s followers the only image repair work we should ever be concerned with is actual damage repair. To that end, my husband and I are doing what we long hoped Willow Creek and the Willow Creek Association would have done. I begged them to hire a power abuse specialist, knowing that with the inappropriate comments and invitations, the multiple grooming attempts I reported, there would be many more victims suffering in silence. I’m tremendously grateful to the brave women who wrestled this darkness into the light, we owe them a great deal.
My husband and I are partnering with a counseling group that specializes in the areas of power, clergy and sexual abuse to provide services to anyone who has been a victim of these things at willow creek. You do not need to participate in an investigation or share with anyone else about your experiences. Your name and sessions will be kept confidential, but we will cover the costs. We believe you.
May you receive healing and wholeness in Christ as you bear witness in a safe environment to the devastating things you have experienced. May the love of Christ redeem and restore what has been destroyed far beyond what you could ask or imagine. I’ve experienced God’s presence more in my pain than ever before. Despite what you may have been told or what might have been said about you: you didn’t ask for it, you didn’t do anything to deserve it, you weren’t the pursuer, you aren’t being divisive or harming God’s Kingdom. By living out scripture’s invitation to bring into the light what has been kept in the dark you are partnering in His redemptive work.
To schedule, call Diane Langberg’s office: 215-885-1835
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